Friday, April 20, 2012

some things I believe

I believe in the law of attraction.  I believe faith is involved in most everything I do.  When Cooper says, “I am going to have a great practice today,” he does.  When a friend on facebook says, “oh crap, it’s monday again”  they probably have a crappy monday.  I don’t think it’s always easy to stay in a positive frame of mind, but I do believe it is worth the effort.  It is not uplifting to me to read blogs of friends who are constantly complaining.  I’m sure their struggles are legitimate, but throwing that negativity out there isn’t really helping anyone, is it?  Maybe it serves a purpose for them, but it seems they are just attracting more of the same rather than choosing to attract a different experience.  I believe that I can create great experiences in my home every day.  Sometimes it takes more effort than others, but I am capable and so are my children.  Denten reminded me after a recent conversation that my focus was in the wrong place and that I needed to make abundance my target, rather than the deficit.  While I was not intending to be negative, he was totally right and things shifted the moment my focus did.  When my kids go to bed and they repeat, “I am a sweet brother/sister, I am a great friend, I am a great listener, I try my very best, I am amazing, my mom and dad love me, my Heavenly Father loves me, my angels are here to help me,” they start throwing in their own affirmations and it is fun to hear what they believe and what they want to achieve.

I grew up with a worry gene.  It manifested itself early and strongly and has been present through my life but I have learned that when I recognize that behavior and choose faith over worry it affects me as well as those around me in a positive way.  I don’t always know how things are going to work out, but I have learned time and again that they always do.  When I deemed this year one of transitions for our family, I believe that in turn, I invited them.  We knew that Denten’s transition at work would take a while to produce the income we were expecting and I knew that adding a puppy to our family would be a lot of work and while both of these experiences could be seen daily as struggles and hardships and cause me frustration, they are also blessings that have come with lessons learned and growth that has made us more aware of our capabilities and opportunities that we wouldn’t otherwise have. 

It is easy for the adversary to capitalize on any little frustration, worry and impatience that we have.  He’s right there waiting to slip his little foot in and explode the situation.  But so are our angels.  And they are stronger.  Numerous times have they carried me through the last few hours of my day when physically and emotionally I am spent and don’t know how on earth I will last until bedtime with these children.  But I haven’t died yet, and neither have they.  Having a husband who isn’t home in the evenings isn’t easy- it would be easy to look at families who have a dad home for dinner every night and be envious- but I am blessed.  I am blessed that he is working for our family and committed to both our relationship and providing.  I am blessed that when he is here, he is present and engaged with our children.  I am blessed that he is employed and has enough work to keep him busy and that he enjoys what he does. 

Choosing to be positive can often be seen as being unrealistic- I am aware of my reality and I am also aware that I have more control over that reality than anyone else.  This home is a happy one if I decide it will be.  Dinner will come together easily if I make that choice.  Cooper will have a great baseball practice if he decides to and Beckham wakes up every morning thinking that it’s the greatest day on earth and for him, it usually is.  Sometimes Seneca sits down to eat and looks at her food and says, “mom, this is gross.  I am not eating it.”  Sometimes I can tell she doesn’t love it but she’ll choose to say, “mom, I think this dinner might be delicious, I’ll try it.”  Whining at the table can change the whole energy of the meal if we let it.  There is a difference between saying, “no more yelling!” and “happy voices are welcome in this car.”  or “quit leaving dirty laundry on the floor” and “I’m happy to help kids who have their rooms picked up.”  In the heat of the moment sometimes it takes a lot of brainpower for me to phrase things well, but the reaction from my children is vastly different when I take time to do so.

Two weeks ago my youngest sister created a wonderful wedding day.  She left worries and stresses behind and lived to enjoy the people and experiences of the day.  Her light was contagious and I could feel the positive energy she radiated all day.  Right now my other sister is creating a great weekend race with fun friends and strong legs despite remarkable heat.  She is famous for pushing any self-doubt aside and owning her confidence and making great things come to pass.  Denten is in the process of creating an awesome Ironman experience that will happen two weeks from now.  There is so much in these experiences that could be discouraging or worrisome, but instead they choose to put mind over matter and trust that they have put in the time to be prepared and that their bodies are ready to push.  These experiences are inspiring to me.

I intend to create great things.  I appreciate those close to me, both physically and virtually, who help me on a daily basis.  I am certain that Heavenly Father wants us to live in a positive frame of mind.  I am certain that He will help us create whatever we desire.  I am certain that we are all much more capable and powerful than we allow ourselves to believe.  What kinds of things do you want to create?  What events, experiences and things would you like to manifest in your life?  You don’t really need to answer that, but think about it… my list is growing all the time!

11 comments:

eryka said...

Such a good reminder. Having a positive attitude makes a world of difference.

tenacious d said...

This is an excellent, uplifting post. Thank you for sharing it. There are so many blessings to be had by being positive and grateful. Good for you for teaching your children that, by word and example.

Torey said...

Glad you're posting again, and good ones at that. You, my dear, are an inspiring example to many-a women out there!

Tamra said...

Amen!

Sandi said...

I want my PhD. Thank you for reminding me that a positive attitude will make the ride more enjoyable. P.S. I have started my dissertation possess.

The Silly Witch said...

You inspire me, remind me, and make me smile.

Joni said...

Awesome! This is totally how i try to live my life too. I think i may have that worry gene as well, but I think i do a really good job of not letting it get the best of me. Thanks for the reminder on how to keep that positive attitude and truly be grateful for what we have. You are amazing cousin. :)

Natalie said...

Great comments! You summed it up so beautifully and I'm sure your post will come to my mind throughout the week. Thanks!

Just the THREE of us said...

i love this! i try to be positive, but i need to be more aware and intentional with my attitude as well.thank you!

Tutz said...

You are a good expample of overcoming worry with your positive thoughts and actions. Pres. Hinkley once said, "It will be okay in the end. If it's not okay - it's not the end." I sometimes have to remind myself, 'it's not the end'. Keep it up, it's a boost for many of us.

Erin said...

I love this post! I read it last Friday night and have kept checking "keep unread" in my reader so I can be reminded of it.

I really appreciated the reminder to focus on the positive, and strengths of the moment and to create the experience you want.

I carried the reminder over into what was (to me) a very hard and very long bike ride up and down a mountain. I created my own affirmations "I am strong, I am trained, I can do this" and repeated them constantly up the long slog. And, the ride that had me scared for months was joyous, beautiful, and not as hard as I thought it would be.

I now am trying to focus on similar affirmations for my parenting, "I am patient, I am flexible, I am present".

You are an example of inspired living, and I appreciate your insight and example!